Forget The Fear


I’ve recently listened to interviews with several very successful entrepreneurs, leaders and salespeople who were asked what had held them back in their career. Amazingly many of them immediately replied, “Fear”.  Even the most successful and those who we would consider celebrities or stars have battled fear and self-doubt.

Fear of what? Fear of failure? Fear of success? What is it we fear?

Some never reach their full potential because taking the lead and putting themselves out there invites criticism, potential failure and judgment by others. Therefore, they settle into a life of mediocrity and being average. Honestly, that’s what we should fear the most.

In fact, I’ve said for years my biggest fear is being average. It’s just my make up—I can’t stand to think I left anything undone or any opportunity unseized.

So what if others criticize? Why let stop you from becoming what you were born to be? Why let fear control your destiny? It is most likely their criticism comes from their own fear and the fact you overcame yours. People are funny that way.

Bette Midler is quoted as saying, “The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”

In my life I’ve been lucky enough to get to do many things on my bucket list: I did stand-up comedy for almost a decade and performed in front of literally thousands of people over that time. I’ve done Community Theater, written a book, continue to work on my blog and spoken in front of huge audiences.

I’m not the kind who is going to look back when I’m 80 and say, “What if?”

Was I ever scared? Terrified! But, I turned that fear into adrenaline and used it to my advantage. You can, too! Fear can be a good thing if you don’t let it paralyze you.

I still get scared. I still have those voices at times, but I never let them win. I don’t let fear control me.

What’s the worst that can happen? Can you live with that? If so, then go for it. Don’t look back and enjoy the ride.