Developing Self Confidence

Psychology, Self Confidence Coaching

Too many times in life the difference between the ultra-successful and those who barely scrape by can be traced simply to self-confidence. The belief in one’s self is the cornerstone on which all other talents, abilities and skills are built. Henry Ford said, “Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, you’re right.”

Developing Self Confidence

Today I’m going to give you three tips or strategies to use to develop or increase your self confidence or self-esteem. You can implement these all in one day, you can spread them over a week, but I think it’s important to implement the three of them into your life as soon as possible. Every day that goes by can be one where opportunities are missed and chances are wasted

Positive Self Talk

The first step in developing self confidence is to change your internal dialogue. That little voice in your mind who speaks to you while you drive, when you’re alone or especially when you’re contemplating a new task needs to be trained how to talk to you.

Eliminate negative words. For example, recently I found myself feeling a sore throat coming on and caught myself saying (aloud and in my mind), “I don’t have time to be sick.” Guess what?  I got sick.

It’s been shown the subconscious mind doesn’t deal in reason, fact, history or knowledge. It only works with what you tell it. Instead of my earlier statement, I should’ve said, “I need to stay well.” I believe the results would’ve been different.

So, instead of telling yourself what you can’t do, begin telling yourself what you can do. Reframe your thoughts, internal dialogue and eventually your actions to be the positive rather than the negative. You cannot change your physical being without changing your internal mindset. Look in the mirror every day and repeat a mantra or goal. Every day. Every single day.

How can you reframe your words from negative to positive?

What do you want yourself to hear every day? Write it down and let yourself hear it aloud and in your thoughts.


Very closely aligned with positive self-talk are affirmations. Daily affirmations you tell yourself designed to help you on your journey to developing self-confidence. Affirmations simply affirm in your mind what you want and where you’re going in life.

I recently wrote on the amazing opportunity I had to hear Dr. John Demartini speak. This man was born with Dyslexia, told he would never amount to anything and was unable to read or write at 15. Yet, he decided he wanted to teach. Every day for the past 42 years he’s repeated the same mantra: “I am a genius and I apply my wisdom.”

He is and he does.

What do you want YOU to hear? If you want to hear it, why not be the one to say it?


The third piece of our puzzle is simply faith. Faith in yourself and the things you focus on and see for yourself. If you tell yourself every day, “I am successful, fit and financially independent”, you must believe it with every fiber and ounce of your being. It has to literally ooze out of your pores.

Developing self-confidence takes all three of these, but without faith the other two fall flat. They are simply exercises in futility. Look deep inside; convince yourself you’re going to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve. Never let anyone else establish your value. They may be able to establish your wage, but you set your own value. Raise it today.

Have faith. Believe.

Great things are coming to you. I believe that.